weddings

weddings weddings weddings. A day that all girls;okay maybe a few girls dream about. fo me all i care about for now is mu wedding dress..kapish.i guess when the time comes,i will care about the rest. i have attended a lot of weddings in my life because of food.yes you heard me right food,most especially the cake.i think they know a lot of people like the cake so the 'mise' it.oh well i have found a solution for my own wedding. that is not my point.

Weddings are usually really glamorous events depending on the families involved. i thank God that i have gone for mostly the beautiful ones.you know, when you go for a wedding of someone you don't really know, you won't know how much work was put into the wedding. well i didn't know weddings were serious work until my aunts and uncles started getting married one by one.OMG!!weddings are tough on everyone especially the bride. but for me i think its all about careful and 'on-time' planning.weddings here include the traditional ones as well. there are 2 weddings that stick out like sore thumbs in my memory and unfortunately, one of them was my uncle's trad wedding.

The trad wedding was set for 1pm and you will never believe the people that delayed us-the village people. we the family were on-time and we had to wait for the village people.that's my first problem.in my own wedding,they aren't invited. know that seems harsh but they are the greatest source of the problem.ok so this wedding was also in Anambra state but due to the terrible roads in these country,there was hold-up and we finally got there are 4pm.imagine that. as if that was not enough,he's wife people decided to insult us by saying we are not allowed to watch some of the wedding rights. fine no problem. you would not believe that we waited for 3 hours for the rites to finish.I'm telling you now n all honesty that i left my own uncles trad wedding without even seeping water. everyone that came with us were so pissed off that they left.my poor uncle by the way was also not allowed to see the rites.at his own wedding he didn't eat.they finally brought food when it was dark so we suggested that we take the food home and eat there. but no!the villagers could not wait. they behaved like they had never seen food before and it was embarrassing.we got back home at about 8pm that my mum,myself and my siblings.the wedding party came back around 10pm and trust the villagers,they returned for their food.i can't blame them anyway.they deserved it after all they had suffered.

Wedding number 2 was that of intern at my mum's office. i don't even know why my mum agreed to attend. the wedding was in kaduna-trad on Friday and white on Saturday. the girl told my mum that she had reserved a hotel room for us which meant my whole family.i decided to go with my mum unfortunately for me and fortunately for my mum. anyway we got to kaduna around 4pm and called the girl to come ad pick us. you would not believe what she came o pick us up with 'okada'.unfreakingbelievable. my mum and I were shocked. we just took a cab to the house which was crowded with guests. it rained so everyone had to enter the house. after all the festivities ended around 8pm,we decided it was time to go to bed. we asked about our hotel reservation and she told us o wait.we did, for 2 hours. imagine!!they packed us in a bus with all these Yoruba speaking old people and drove us back and forth kaduna till 12:30am.they took us a guest house,then to the guy's house and back.we just kept going back and forth.finally we got to a hotel which was nothing to write home about but we didn't care.all i wanted was to sleep.i woke up refreshed in the morning and that's when i saw how bad the hotel was.no food!!!!even common bread in a hotel!!!oh well.we bathed,dressed up and went to the reception venue.they were having a court wedding which was at 10am so we didn't see the need to go there. we got to the reception venue at 11am.honestly we left there t 4pm without seeing the wedding party. they hadn't done their court wedding by 4pm.what is going on???i have suffered all for weddings.i can't seem to understand.

All these things by God's grace can NEVER happen at my wedding NEVER!!!!!

So ladies,a piece of advice get a wedding planner and start very early.oh yes and don't invite too many people.it tends to cause problems.

ciao

April's fools day

well I do not know the history of this day but i have to say I love that day as long as the joke is not on me. in high school, our principal pranked us and he got us all real good. we had to hand it to him because it was perfect. i mean people were pissed and some sorrowful. am in college now so when April fool rolled around this year, i was hoping for a really good prank......on someone of course. so my friends and i were just chatting when it became 12am on April 1st. we decided we wanted to prank people. our first attempt was our friend M. she was afraid of being alone in a room and at that time she was asleep alone in the room. one of my friends painted her face white and smeared some red lipstick on her lips. she also covered herself with a cloth. she looked scary. we all filed into the room. R woke M up screaming that she was seeing someone in the room and the person wasn't moving. M was too sleepy to understand. despite R's screaming, M didn't get scared because she didn't understand what was happening. when she finally did, she knew it was us. Bad joke! we tried to prank E the same way so we just walked into her room and well....she didn't scream but she was a little spooked. we entered another friend's room and one of the girls screamed. it was all very disappointing to us because we hadn't gotten the kind of response we were looking for.

THEN came the master plan. our friend Y had a boyfriend B so we decided to call him and tell him that was throwing up and having stomach pains. we wanted him to panic and come to her room. so we called him,sounding very urgent and a little hysterical, telling him that his girlfriend was ill and needed him. at first he laughed because well it was April fool's day. we kept calling and sounding urgent with Y retching in the background. eventually he took us seriously and came to Y's dorm. As for Y she is a brilliant actress. we decided that when he came outside the dorm, we would shout 'April fool' together but Y decided to stretch the joke a little. she fell on the floor and was crying,'my tummy.my tummy'. people around started asking what the problem was. we told them she needed to go the clinic.some of them knew it was a joke, others didn't. there was a car packed there so we looked for the owner and asked him to take Y and B to the clinic. we thought Y would end there but oh no she didn't. she allowed the driver take her to the clinic. on the way, the rest of us called B and screamed ' April fool's'. we got him good. the person we got really really good was the driver/owner of the car. till today, he doesn't know that it was all a joke. poor guy.probably thought he was helping out. well we just couldn't tell him because he would have been really pissed and we had never spoken to him before that day.

I'm just happy that despite all the failed attempts, we finally got someone!!!

yay!!

my top ten favourite songs of the moment

I just felt I should tell you about the recent songs i love. so here is the countdown!

10. Hard-Rihanna

9.Russian Roulette-Rihanna(despite d occultic connotations)

8.One time-Justin Beiber

7.Rude boy-Rihanna

6.Baby-Justin Beiber(i know he's young but he's good...damn)

5.Starstruck-3oh!3 feat Katy Perry

4.Say something-Drake feat Timberland

3.If we ever meet again-Timberland feat Katy Perry

2.Put it in a love song-Alicia Keys feat Beyonce

*drum roll*

1.Say ahh-Trey Songz feat Fabulous!!

I'm sure it seems like am a Rihanna fan but I'm not. her songs always seem to catch me....and Lady Gaga's too. I know they have deeper meanings and stuff but me all i do is enjoy the tunes and not think about the words. i love Beyonce's songs and her dance moves of course...who doesn't?

Honesty

.....is the best policy. i know we all know this saying and its becoming cliché but it is still the truth. i know the truth hurts but it definitely sets you free.you do not have to carry the burden around for long.you let go of it and accept the consequences of your action. so here's my story

*no names of course*

OK so one night *Reyes decided to go out and have fun. the problem is she was kind of upset deep down inside. even though she tried to hide it, we all knew the truth. *Fa-chic went with her because she also wanted to have fun..i think. well she came back at 2am with the most hilarious story i have ever heard. well the story is not the point of my post but I'll just tell you this; it was freaking crazy!!! really crazy!!! am sure now you want to know the whole story but anyway....Reyes said some things she shouldn't have and am kinda glad she said it. it will help her in the long run. Fa-chic,MissP,PP and myself decided we had to something about Reyes crazy situation. we called Reyes's 'best friend',S and spoke to him about the situation. i agree we might have told him some embarrassing details but in the end we all just wanted to help. there was a particular line that was said by Fa-chic which made me flinch because i knew that if it were me, i wouldn't want S to know. i couldn't object because sadly it was the truth although it was highly embarrassing. well 4 days later, Reyes decided to ask what we told S. we had decided not to tell her anything so i said,'i don't remember' which was a lie. it hurt to lie but i couldn't remember everything of course except the most embarrassing details. she then proceeds to ask a particular question regarding what Fa-chic said that made me flinch the other day. i was silent and my silence was taken as a yes. she wanted to know who gave her away and i told her. being Reyes she decided to go and hate on Fa-chic who then proceeded to say that it was all of us(Fa-chic, MissP,PP and I) that said it. now here is where my problem arises. how do people say things together? is it that we chorused the statement? or we said it one after the other? am confused here..can someone help me out?

my second problem is Reyes is my friend..at least i think she is...even she's not she knows me. so why the heck would i lie about who made the embarrassing statement? what? am sacred that she'll beat me or kill me? she can't. all she can do is confront me and maybe never speak to me for some days. so why should that scare me into lying? another thing is i always...OK at least i try very hard to say things as they are. she should know me better. if it were me that said it, i would have told her it was me. funny part is MissP and PP agreed with Fa-chic that we said it together..wow!! i get we are friends and we have to stick together but what would it have taken for you to admit the truth and THEN stand by Fa-chic through whatever Reyes would say? i guess that was a lot harder...gotta take the easy way out you know.

This bugged me throughout my class period so i decided to tell them. I tried to redeem myself and everyone ignored me.....CLASSIC!

I guess I got a new post out of them.

So there you have it!

A giveaway

I'm sure you are all very surprised by that title but allow me to explain. my blog is not sophisticated enough to be holding a giveaway but i know someone whose blog is. for you to win the diamond you have to follow her blog and/or twit about it, facebook it or blog about it.

OK let me be honest... I'm trying to win the diamond bracelet from Abazias diamonds that's exactly why am writing this post. so girls and even guys check out my friend's blog for more info http://anordinarygirlsworld.blogspot.com/2010/03/gallant-giveaway-abazias-diamonds.html

remember, diamonds are a girl's best friend!!!

Crazy a** people

Yea I know the title kind of takes you by surprise but don't worry I'll explain.

A lot has been happening this past couple of days in my school. I'll start with the first group of crazy people; a few girls whose room is a few doors away. they put the 'row' in borrow. gosh! they ask for everything from cosmetics to clothes to toiletries to food. you name it. they even come to use our bathroom when they have theirs. even when you tell them no, they get angry and go only to come back another day. what kind of people are these? when we are fast asleep in my room with the door locked, they come knocking as if its their room. it's so freaking irritating and they won't stop no matter how much you tell them to. arrrggghhh!!! one of them came and borrowed 3 of our buckets and returned two. when we asked her why she said one of them was broken. girl get some sense! you are supposed to come to us and tell us that with apologies and not wait for us to come and ask you. oh did i mention that we always have to ask them to return our stuff before they do. because of their constant asking we even 'dash' them some things, yet they still come back for more. get a life will you! i can't keep talking about them if not i might implode!

the second crazy set of people are my school authorities. yes! i said that. imagine the fools, they increased our fees by 35% because the school is running in debt. ehm, who's fault is it? theirs. they employed a contractor to build our library and paid him in full and of course the man took off with all the money. an 'American' institution that doesn't keep records. where in the world does that happen? then a staff in the school has been siphoning money from the school without their knowledge. how would they know when they don't keep records. so now they are broke and they think we are the ones to finance their debt??? WE NO FIT!! well we decided to show them that we can't pay for their stupidity so we have been on a peaceful protest. now they know we are serious.let's see what will come out of it.

ciao!

true and beautiful words

i love this so i had to put it here

I Believe...
That just because two people argue,
it doesn't mean they don't love each other.
And just because they don't argue,
it doesn't mean they do love each other.

I Believe...
That we don't have to change friends
if we understand that friends change.

I Believe...
That no matter how good a friend is,
they're going to hurt you every once in a while
and you must forgive them for that.

I Believe...
That true friendship continues to grow,
even over the longest distance.
Same goes for true love.

I Believe...
That you can do something in an instant
that will give you heartache for life.

I Believe...
That it's taking me a long time
to become the person I want to be.

I Believe...
That you should always leave loved ones
with loving words. It may be the last time you see them.

I Believe...
That you can keep going long after you think you can't.

I Believe...
That we are responsible for what we do,
no matter how we feel.

I Believe....
That either you control your attitude or it controls you.

I Believe...
That heroes are the people who do what has to be done
when it needs to be done, regardless of the consequences.

I Believe...
That money is a lousy way of keeping score.

I Believe...
That my best friend and I,
can do anything,
or nothing and have the best time.

I Believe...
That sometimes the people you expect
to kick you when you're down,
will be the ones to help you get back up.

I Believe...
That sometimes when I'm angry
I have the right to be angry,
but that doesn't give me the right to be cruel.

I Believe...
That maturity has more to do
with what type of experiences you've had
and what you've learned from them
and less to do with how many birthdays you've celebrated.

I Believe...
That it isn't always enough, to be forgiven by others..
sometimes, you have to learn to forgive yourself.

I Believe...
That no matter how bad your heart is broken
the world doesn't stop for your grief.

I Believe...
That our background and circumstances
may have influenced who we are,
but, we are responsible for who we become.

I Believe...
That you shouldn't be so eager
to find out a secret.
It could change your life Forever.

I Believe...
Two people can look at
the exact same thing
and see something totally different.

I Believe...
That your life can be changed
in a matter of hours
by people who don't even know you.

I Believe...
That even when you think
you have no more to give,
when a friend cries out to you -
you will find the strength to help.

I Believe...
That credentials on the wall
do not make you a decent human being.

I Believe...
That you should send this
to all of the people that you believe in,
I just did.

I Believe...
The happiest of people
don't necessarily have the best of everything;
they just make the most of everything

Disappointment

i am highly highly disappointed in someone i thought was my friend. i have known her, or at least thought i did for four years. i have been defending her against all rumours not knowing that i have been making a complete fool of myself.i feel so hurt. how can you be friends with some one for so long and the person will look you in the eye and lie about something trivial, maybe not so trivial. why would i carry rumours or rather truths....that i do not even know...to tell people outside? confusing i know.something i do not know about i'm the one spreading the rumour. i can't even express how i feel so am just going to give you a piece of advice; if there's anyone you knew in high school, be rest assured that the person will not be the same in college.i learnt the hard way.

how cam my so-called friend hear that people have been talking about her behind her back and assume its me? why the heck will it be me.

people are definitely not who they seem...don't be deceived especially by their looks.

vals day witha a new look!

you may have noticed, obviously that i have upgraded my blog.yes it has a fresh new look.i just discovered most of this stuff today.

let me talk a little about valentines' day(vals day). its a day to express love to your loved ones and has become increasingly commercial. it is also a day to appreciate the people in your life. In church today, i learnt that God's love covers a multitude of sin. as long as you believe and trust in God he will never leave you exposed.God can never give away your secrets. he's the perfect bestfriend.

we had a carnival in church today and it was really fun as we praised and worshipped God. there was a particular song that touched me.it always moves me to tears;

'He came from heaven to earth to show the way.From the earth to the cross, my debt to pay.from the cross to the grave, from the grave to the sky.Lord I lift your name on high'

the song just goes to tell us how much our God loves us.

this is a song that i will always sing to God to tell him how much i love him;

'you are the love of my life.you are the one that i live for.you are, you are my everything. i wouldn't trade you for silveror gold.i wouldn'tn trade you for riches untold. you are my everything'. thank you God for loving me with a perfect love.

in this season of love, i want all my friends to know that i love you all very much...even when it hurts me to do so.....jimi, ogugua,kene, wukeh,IB,tobi,onyi,chinwe,annette,yvonne,maryam,ojiugo,......to name a few.thanks for being my friends.

with love,

moi

spring 2010

I'm just going to tell you what my semester looks like.you might not really understand but i will try to explain. first i have physics with a professor named psaker. you would not understand this guy. everyone is scared of him because a lot of people do not pass his course. people have delayed taking physics in the hope that he will leave the school but the guy is resilient he is not going anywhere in the nearest future.for someone like me who does not like....ok i should not say that.lets just say I'm not too good at it.with a teacher like that, what am i going to do? then, there's chemistry.the professor is a smiling devil he seems so nice but last semester only 3 students got an A in his class. well, let's just say that chemistry is not my favorite subject. then i have an information systems class with an also tough professor. he makes you feel so relaxed but when its time for tests.....lets just say you will have to sweat a little.i also have calculus with a teacher that expects you to already know it. i mean, he just wrote an explanation on the board and then gave us questions to solve. helloooo aren't you supposed to solve a question first so we can understand?. statistics with a very cynical professor which i don't have a problem with as long as i pass the class.

well that's me this semester...here's to hoping that i get a great GPA!

cheers n ciao!!

XMAS HOLIDAY

well well well...it's been a while since i was here.that is because i could not find anything worth writing about. now am going to tell you about my Christmas break. to say it was interesting would not be entirely true and to say it was boring would not be true as well. it was just somewhere in between.
I got back home on the 17th of December and all i did was shopping shopping shopping!! i'm sure you're thinking..that's exciting...but i tell you solemnly it is not! especially when you can not seem to find anything you like. well after days of shopping, we went to villa*. i already hate going to villa because the first few days is all cooking and cleaning and the house is huge. my grandma and my aunt always let us get there first so that we will do the cleaning. i had had enough and so had my father..for the first time i might add. so we waited for them to get there first before we did. imagine the sneaky little humans.they got there first alright but they did absolutely nothing. imagine that! they just came back, dropped their bags and went out to but drinks. so after everything we ended up doing the cleaning. on Xmas day, all i did was cook and clean..how is that an exciting day huh? anyway this holiday, two of my uncles were getting married. so we started the preparation. on the d-day, we left the house late for a start and there was a lot of traffic on the road so we eventually got there around 4pm when the event was meant to start at 1pm. well since we were there late, you would think we would begin immediately but oh no we didn't. we spent two hours just waiting for the event to start. that's 6pm. it's dark already. many people are getting really angry and are leaving. me as usual finds the whole situation funny.well i convinced my mum that we should leave before it gets really dark and we did. to make matters worse, we hadn't eaten anything since morning and when we got home, the dogs were out of there cage and the dogs didn't know any of us. in the end we had to wait for everyone to come back. so much for leaving early.
The second wedding was beautiful and well organized. the only problem was that i was a chief bridesmaid. yes!that was a problem considering that i had only just met the lady once before that time. surprising isn't it? definitely. i really didn't understand it. didn't she have any friends or family? why did it have to be me? as in really! the only good part was getting all dolled up(wish i had a pic to put here) because i looked really different and nice..i might add. on the day, everyone seemed to be in a mood.any little mistake and you will get screamed at by ten different people. i had my bath and got dressed. the bride was about to leave and i remembered i left my shawl.i had to get it because i could not enter the church without it. my mum just started shouting at me.."you should never leave the brides side". well beat me for not knowing that. you would think i go to weddings to watch the bridesmaids and what they do. next thing the bride shouted at me to open the door for her. i can keep going on and on about how terrible the day was for and oh! i didn't eat a pin at the wedding. imagine that! only bright spot was that the bestman was kinda hot..definitely older than me. he tried to chat me up but i messed it up when i said, "the groom is my mummy's brother". how childish. well in the end, i ate all i wanted to eat and more!
When i got back home, i did some more shopping as it was almost time for school. now am back in school and guess what! I'M GLAD TO BE BACK!! because no one will tell me am a terrible bridesmaid or send me around. oh yes! before i forget a chief bridesmaid = wedding housegirl!!. one piece of advice....if the bride isn't your best friend or at least a really close friend, then please do not do it...for your own good. do not!!
ciao amigos!!